Thursday, August 18, 2011


When Ethan was born my husband and I put all of our focus into him and being parents. We focused on how to make him happy and put our needs to the side. In the beginning we were in survival mode and focusing on the simple things of nourishment and sleep. 

As he has gotten a little bigger and I've gotten more of this mom thing a little more figured out, I've put focus into running our household. My home organization notebook and life planner have helped me get a better grip on things. Homemade dinners are getting to the table almost every night, laundry is getting folded and the house is pretty clean on a daily basis. 

I feel like now that I have a handle on being a mom and running a house it's time to shift the focus to myself and my relationship with my husband. Having a child has changed so many things, many for the better of course, but my husband and I have let some things go including ourselves as individuals and as a couple.

As time has gone on Michael and I have slowly carved out some time for us as individuals. It's important to retain those little of pieces of you that make you who you are. Sometimes you need to do things for yourself especially after you have given to everyone else all day. Michael has started running in the mornings and I have made sure that there is time in the day for me to do crafty things or blog or whatever it is that I want to do.

Now it's time to make some "us" time. I want my husband and I to talk about more than the day to day tasks or what needs to be done next. Most nights once Ethan is in bed we turn on the TV and zone out. It's when we decompress so to speak, but I think it's time for us to turn off the TV and reconnect. It's time to focus on our relationship.

I feel like things are slowly getting ironed out. It's funny how when you have a newborn everything is thrown into chaos mode and you just let everything go. It takes so much time to get things figured out and get things back "normal". We still aren't to our "normal" (and I put that in quotations because really it's a new normal) but we are definitely headed in that direction. 

I'm sure we will get it figured out about the time we have the next one and it's time to start over again. 

And no, I'm not pregnant.


  1. Love this b/c we are currently going through the same. I feel like some days we are spot on with this whole balance between being husband & wife and mom & dad and other days I feel so disconnected! We are figuring it out one day at a time too and each day I feel closer and closer to having it all together.

  2. I don't have kids yet, but I have DEFINITELY heard that it is a huge adjustment. Let's face it, our guys are spoiled by us. :) They get used to having us all to themselves and then suddenly, there is a new, very needy person in the house who demands a little more attention. It's just so wonderful that you recognize it and are making an effort to carve out that "y'all" time for you and your husband. Best of luck!!

  3. It is a tough balancing act that's for sure. Hope you guys spend some quality "us" time. And yes once we figure this out the next one will come along and throw everything out the window again! :)

  4. I hope you're able to enjoy some quality time together! It's easy to just want to zone out at the end of the day, but I hope you're able to engage in some meaningful conversation and enjoy just being together :)

  5. Oh girl, you hit home with this one. When Giada was born, and pretty much the first three months of my life I felt like my own life was a constant chaos and that I was never going to figure things out or get a routine going. And then I did. We were even starting to make time for our selves. And as soon as I got it all figured out, I had to go back to work. Now my whole schedule is all messed up and I don't even know where to start. If I had to work the same days every week, I would have an easier time figuring it out. But I don't. It always changes, and I am back in the overly tired, chaotic momma mode.
    I'm so glad that you're able to figure things out for yourself though :-)


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