I don't know about you, but I hate giving the home tour to people when they come over. Something about it just makes me feel like I'm going to have an anxiety attack.
Thoughts start running through my head like "OMG I haven't cleaned my baseboards in months!", "Will they notice that spot in the carpet that I CANNOT get out?", "We still haven't had time to replace our counter tops. Will they think I just have bad taste?".
Ugh. The next thing that happens is that I start yelling at my husband because a towel isn't folded correctly or that the pillow arrangement on the bed is all wrong.
Then, I want to just call and cancel whatever get together has been planned in fear that my house smells like puppy pee. You know how you can never REALLY tell how your house smells because, well, you are there all the time. Grr.
It really shouldn't be that bad.
Can't we just skip the tour? It's not the Taj Mahal. You probably aren't going to get any really great design ideas out of it. All it boils down to is a judgment made in their heads. "Lovely." or "Shew they have a lot they need to do!" And don't even lie. We all judge.
I believe the reason people really want the home tour is to better understand the person. What do they like? What's their style? How do they show their personality in their home? How do they really live? How do we compare? It's just part of it. I completely understand it.
Really, I think it's that I'm not comfortable in the center of attention. I feel unnerved by the fact that things might not be absolutely perfect in every little way. I always feel the need to point out all the mistakes and explain why it is the way it is. I feel the need to make excuses.
And....I need to get over it.
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
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I wish more people were like you...I hate when people want to take me on house tours. No hard feelings, but unless we are GREAT FRIENDS or you are known for IMPECCABLE TASTE, I don't need to see the whole place. If we are close, I will eventually see most of the house just by hanging out together. If not, I don't need to see your laundry room.
ReplyDeleteI hate it too. Our house is on the market now so I have been giving real-tors and rent people tours....hate it.
ReplyDeleteI don't get upset at my honey BUT I do wonder if people will notice all the little things about my house that I haven't gotten around to fixing yet. And it seems that every time someone wants a tour of my home it is messy. Sigh. And yet, I think it's fun to look at other people's homes. It is so interesting. But I don't judge, unless something is really really filthy or something. EXCEPT I totlly wonder, these people whose homes always look PERFECT ... how DO they do it? It baffles me.
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