Friday, February 17, 2012

I Think I Hit the Jackpot!

When you are a boy mom you often hear comments that make you feel like you somehow missed out on the grand prize of having a girl. I can't tell you how many times I've heard comments such as these: "Hopefully the next one will be a girl." "Oh, a girl would have been so much fun." "I can't wait until you have a little girl." Now I wouldn't mind to have a little girl someday, but to be honest I've always wanted to be a boy mom. 


I didn't know exactly what I'd be getting into when I had a little boy as I grew up with a sister. I have a clear picture of what I think later years will be like and the challenges they will present, but I had no idea what a little boy would have in store for me. Let's just say I've definitely learned why people use the saying "He's all boy!". We have most certainly entered the stage of big sticks, a little aggression and running full speed ahead. 

What I love the most about this little boy stage are all the sporadic moments of sweetness - the hugs that come out of nowhere, sweet kisses that are freely given and the smiles that light up my day.  Today Ethan escaped out the back door while I was making lunch. He ran into the yard full speed ahead as I tried to catch up laughing and giggling all the way. He stopped suddenly in the middle of the yard and bent down to pull up some "flowers" and immediately handed them to me with the biggest smile on his face. My heart melted. 


I can't wait to experience all the joys that a little boy can bring. I'm sure little girls are just as sweet, but I don't want anyone to think that my little boy is some sort of consolation prize. To me there is nothing better than being a boy mom!


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  1. AMEN. Having a boy is NOT a consolation prize! I couldn't have said it better myself. All the time I now hear, "well, you'll HAVE to try for number three right? FOR A GIRL?!" What makes people assume that just because I have two boys that I wouldn't be happy with just them? Or ANOTHER boy? I hate that so many people think this way! You're right. When I was pregnant with Carter, I had NO idea what to expect. I only "knew" girl things. So OF COURSE I wanted tutus and bows. But now? I ADORE being a Boy Mom and wouldn't have it any other way. Just like there is a special connection between a Mom and her daughter- there is an equally, albeit so different connection, between a mother and her son. I love my son.. and I cannot WAIT to meet his little brother in June. I love being surrounded by ... weenies? Great post, lady. Love this..

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  2. I get the same kind of comments! And it seems like it got worse once we had our second son! I think "boy moms" get a lot of those annoying comments! A little girl would be great, but boys have awesome qualities too! And no one loves their momma like a little boy!

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  3. Aww how sweet is that flower. I remember when my brother would go out to get my mom "Flowers" as well. As J is growing up, I can certainly see the "all boy" coming out as well and I love it! Those sweet, calm moments from your son is heartwarming in a way that I think would be SO different from a daughter.

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  4. I couldn't agree more! Being a boy mom is definitely great. Nolan is all boy too, and he's got so much personality. I know what having a girl is fun too, but having a boy who wants to bang things, play with trucks, and throw balls is just the cutest thing! Hope you are having a great Friday!

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  5. Maybe since I had a girl first this is just something I don't see or feel first hand but in all seriousness, I don't get. Don't we all love our babies to death, feel like we hit the jackpot, and can only ever imagine THEM being a piece of our lives once they are here? I don't 'get' the whole stigma between boy moms/girl moms. I think it's a great divide that seems silly! We need boys in this world. We need girls in this world. They are the future. Why people say stupid crap about gender to moms with one boy about hoping for a girl next, etc? I have Nooooo idea. I would be happy with all my kids of one gender, or mixed, or whatever. Who cares, they're our babies :) My SIL had two girls first. She went for a third and people were all "oh you going for the boy?"..WHY DOES IT MATTER FOR THE LOVE.

    So, 'girl moms' do get this too. The thing I don't really get (maybe b/c I had a girl first) is why I only ever see blog posts from boy moms talking about how much they love being boy moms and feeling the need to justify it. We need you boy momma's to raise loving, respectable men! I respect you the same as I respect any other mother to a girl. Because, in the end we're all moms.

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  6. Totally agree. I think people assume women want to raise women but I love having a son and pray for him to have a brother. And a sister if I'm honest!

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  7. Having a boy is great! Somedays I think it would be great to have a house full of boys!

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  8. Love this! I couldn't agree more. And I think maybe as boy moms we (I have wrote a similar post) write posts like that because "THEY" just assume as boy moms that we are disappointed...wish we had a girl first etc. Whereas if you have girl first "THEY" just assume you are happy and that's what you wanted. I am seriously considering not finding out what we are having if we are blessed to get pregnant again for several reasons. But one of them is so that if it's another boy I don't get all the dumb pity. And I think I would feel this way if we had a girl and then it was another girl. Why the pity? We are thrilled either way! Children are a blessing from the Lord. I'm not about to be the one to question what He gives us.

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  9. You know it's funny. I feel like people treat having a boy as ideal in my group of friends, totally opposite of this mentality. I was so proud to have a little man, but really would like to have a sweet girl next.

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  10. This was so sweet! What a precious thoughtful son you have!

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  11. I was just talking with a friend last night about being a boy mom, and how I noticed I've only ever really seen posts from boy moms talking about how they LOVE being boy moms. I never saw a post about LOVING being a girl mom. Does it matter? Not one bit...but I can relate with those "I love being a boy mom!" posts because...I LOVE IT. Did I think I was having a girl? Yep! Was I surprised when Ethan was a boy? YEP. But was I disappointed? Not for a second. We were walking out of that ultrasound, in fact, and I said to Jarrod, "Aww! I little boy! He'll be my little man." I'd love to have a girl at some point, but if it doesn't happen, it doesn't matter. A healthy baby is what matters. And yet, like you, I get the comments about, "You have to try for a girl next!"

    Love the sweet flower story! :) My Ethan is the cuddliest little guy, too, and I am happy as can be to be a "boy mom." :)

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  12. I think boy moms feel the need to justify their love for being a boy mom b/c SO many people say things like "you'll get a girl next". If people didn't say that stuff, then boy moms wouldn't have to justify the fact that they do indeed love their boys and love being a mom, regardless of gender. When I was pregnant with my first (we didn't find out) my MIL said "You're going to get all boys", and she said it in such a derogetory way like it would be a supreme punishment (she's not always the kindest). I did have a boy (and now a second on the way), and I love being a mom to my first, and I know I'll love my second just the same. Sure, I'll miss smocked dresses and the darling ruffle pants, but the love I've gotten in return makes me know that I'm a mom to who I'm supposed to be a mom to for a reason. I did get lots of comments when my second was a boy about "oh, but you'd be such a good girl mom"- so you don't think I"m a good mom to a little boy? Yes, the world would be great if we could all have one of each gender, but that's just not the way it always is.

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  13. I love being a boy mom! I remember my best friend being disappointed when she found out I was having a boy and asking me if I was...and I'm like, no way! I am so excited! Maybe it's because I'm into sports and athletic and look forward to going to soccer games or whatever sport he chooses, but I was beyond thrilled even though I always said I didn't care if it was a boy or girl. The sweet kisses, hugs, and looks only a boy can give his mom are priceless! And yes, there are challenges as well, but so there are with girls.

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  14. What is sort of odd to me, is this comes to both sides. I'm a girl Mom at the minute and I can't tell you how many times I've been told that I need to "try for a boy". Which I'm sure having a boy is awesome, but.. I'm good with my girl. Would I love to have a boy someday? sure. But if I have a house full of girls, well fantastic. Odd that people can't seem to get that a couple is probably perfectly content with the babe they've got..

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  15. Hey Laura! They are entitled to their own opinion but you are definitely right...a baby boy is as adorable as a baby girl can be. And guess what, you always dreamt of becoming a boy mom right? So, you truly hit the jackpot! :)

    ~Lisha

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  16. I just came across your blog, and I love this post - little boys are so much fun! I'm sure girls are too, but I, like you, have always thought being a boy mom would be so fun, and it is. :-)

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