Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Transitions are Hard

This week has been slightly emotional as our big transition is looming heavily over us at this point. Michael has already left for the big move and E and I have been left behind to finish up a few little things before leaving ourselves this coming weekend.


With Michael out of town this week and me being on 24/7 mommy duty, I decided it would be a good idea to stay the night with my mom Monday and then head over to my dad's the next day for dinner and fun. On our way home I burst into tears realizing just how much we were going to miss them. There will be no, just calling them to come over, or quick saves when I get in a pinch. We will really be on our own. And that, scares me.


Also, I'm not fully sure I understand what kind of effects this will have on Ethan just yet. I do expect it to be confusing, but part of me now is realizing that he might be aware enough to actually miss the people we are leaving and that friends, breaks my heart. E woke up last night at some ungodly morning hour and continued screaming for the next two. I could not, for the life of me, get him to go back to sleep. His belly was full, he wasn't teething, I'd changed his diaper twice at this point....mama was all out of ideas. In desperation I called my sleeping husband. 


Turns out E just missed his daddy. 


Within minutes of him singing their nightly songs, E had his head on my shoulder and was relaxing a bit. Every time Michael would stop singing he would whine and Michael would start up again. 


I've been trying very hard not to think about it, but this move is going to be very difficult on us all. I was hoping Ethan would be too young to really notice, but I have definitely underestimated him.  


13 comments :

  1. I'm sure your parents will miss him dearly... and Ethan will miss them, but when they will get to see each other and talk to each other... it will be that much more special :)

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  2. Awww poor Ethan! He misses his Daddy...I know it won't be easy for you guys...change never is. I hope your week goes better :)

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  3. :( like natalie said, change is never easy. But you both love Ethan, and to him, home is wherever you are. Children are resiliant, and i'd bet money that you will grow closer as a family.

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  4. I like what Heather said. Home to him is definitely wherever you and your husband are. Prayers for an easy transition for you all.

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  5. We're actually going through the same thing kid-wise over here, except no move. Gabe will wake up randomly, screaming his head off and once his dad goes in and sits with him, he's perfectly content. Now of course, he cried when he eventually gets put back into his crib, but I'm thinking he's either waking up and being lonely or scared. So in case it keeps happening after you're all together again, it might just be a toddler thing? I dunno. Whatever it is, I hope it goes away soon!

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  6. This brings tears to my eyes! So sweet that Ethan missed his daddy so much. My husband is also gone this week, and Meyer bolts to the door every time he hears it open yelling Daddy! They are just so aware of everything! I'm sure the moving transition will be very difficult for everyone, but your little family will do just fine, I know it!

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  7. I love being close to my family too. It would be hard to have them farther away.

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  8. change is never easy but i'm hoping this transition goes as smooth as possible for all of you.

    it's amazing how much our little ones take in. they notice more than we think they do. hang in there, mama. :)

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  9. Awww, everything will turn out wonderfully! :) Good luck with the move... Definitely sending a few prayers your way!

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  10. I'll be praying it goes as smoothly as possible. I'm sure there will be some bumps, but children are so resilient .. he'll be just fine.

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  11. Oh prayers for you sweet girl! And also look at the bright side and at the wonderful relationship between E and his daddy. That's awesome! Sending happy thoughts for peaceful hearts for you and yours. And cheers to new memories in your new home!

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  12. This sort of broke my heart. But the good thing is, kids are amazingly resilient. I do think he'll miss the ones around now, but he'll quickly make new buds and love them just as much. Plus, it makes visits so much more fun :)

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  13. We've moved nine times since my kids were born. They're 7&8.

    A couple of those moves had us separate from the husband, or from me, for one reason or another. While it was hard, I learned very quickly that my kids were okay, as long as I was okay.

    Now they don't even remember any of those moves. At all. They're super resilient, well adjusted, funny kids who are very secure in their lives. Don't worry too much. :)

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