When Ethan was born my husband and I put all of our focus into him and being parents. We focused on how to make him happy and put our needs to the side. In the beginning we were in survival mode and focusing on the simple things of nourishment and sleep.
As he has gotten a little bigger and I've gotten more of this mom thing a little more figured out, I've put focus into running our household. My home organization notebook and life planner have helped me get a better grip on things. Homemade dinners are getting to the table almost every night, laundry is getting folded and the house is pretty clean on a daily basis.
I feel like now that I have a handle on being a mom and running a house it's time to shift the focus to myself and my relationship with my husband. Having a child has changed so many things, many for the better of course, but my husband and I have let some things go including ourselves as individuals and as a couple.
As time has gone on Michael and I have slowly carved out some time for us as individuals. It's important to retain those little of pieces of you that make you who you are. Sometimes you need to do things for yourself especially after you have given to everyone else all day. Michael has started running in the mornings and I have made sure that there is time in the day for me to do crafty things or blog or whatever it is that I want to do.
Now it's time to make some "us" time. I want my husband and I to talk about more than the day to day tasks or what needs to be done next. Most nights once Ethan is in bed we turn on the TV and zone out. It's when we decompress so to speak, but I think it's time for us to turn off the TV and reconnect. It's time to focus on our relationship.
I feel like things are slowly getting ironed out. It's funny how when you have a newborn everything is thrown into chaos mode and you just let everything go. It takes so much time to get things figured out and get things back "normal". We still aren't to our "normal" (and I put that in quotations because really it's a new normal) but we are definitely headed in that direction.
I'm sure we will get it figured out about the time we have the next one and it's time to start over again.
And no, I'm not pregnant.
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