Since becoming a mom, I've had a lot of advice pushed on me. Some I wanted, some was helpful, some made me shoot daggers out of my eyes, and most was unsolicited. Everyone has their own views and are passionate about their own thoughts on raising babies.
As a mom I feel myself wanting to burst with advice of my own. I think it's because as a mom you become sooooo absorbed in all the baby stuff. I even find myself giving advice to other moms who more than likely are probably just trying to vent.
As a mom, I know not to be pushy. As a mom, I know different babies have different needs and no one thing works for everyone. I also know as a mom that sometimes advice IS helpful. Sometimes you need to try something different. So here is my unsolicited advice on all things baby.
The First Two Months are Terrible: Seriously, if you are a new mom....it does get better. The first two months are not your new normal. I promise. It gets easier after the first two and when you hit 4 months you really find your new groove. Life is not over. You will sleep again. Clothes will fit again. You will be able to leave your house.
Get out of the house: I can't tell you how many times people said this to me...."You are going to take that baby out today????" or "Poor baby, I can't believe his mommy took him out in this weather!" It's too hot, too cold, too windy, too rainy......whatever. There is not a perfect time to get them out, but for your own sanity it's important. They aren't going to instantly catch something. It's okay...get them out. It makes you feel normal. It makes you realize that you CAN do it.
Have infant gas medicine on hand: Babies are gassy. For real. Get the gas medicine. It won't kill them. I fought my mom tooth and nail on this because I was too scared to give him too much medicine. I didn't want him/me to be dependent on it. He needed it though. Most nights when he woke up in the middle of the night...it was due to gas. Get it, love it, don't be afraid of it.
Return all your receiving blankets: They are the most favorite thing to buy on the baby registry. I had like 6 four packs and kept 4 of those. I wish I had only kept one. They work for the first month maybe, but then they are too small to swaddle. I like these much better....we still use them.
They are big as a sheet, light weight, and so soft. Best things ever!
Stop reading the baby books: Ok, you can read them, but take them lightly. They will make you think you are doing everything wrong. They do think everything will kill your baby. Ignore it. Use it to look up health problems or to get an idea, but don't rethink everything just because a book says something.
Get your baby on a schedule: Okay, this one worked really well for us. It's not for everyone. In fact it's probably a sensitive topic for some. I read Babywise before Ethan was born and was so glad I did. It fit with my personality and it worked for him too thankfully.
You don't have to start your baby on juice: I still don't understand why people (including doctors) push juice so much. My baby is just fine with water. He probably doesn't even need that right now, but we are practicing with the sippy cup before summer when he will really need it. I just don't think the extra sugar is needed. He will get his fruit via the food I give him.
It's okay to do the hippy stuff: People gave me soooooo much crap for doing the cloth diapering and raise an eyebrow when I tell them I make my own baby food. It's okay though. People just think I'm taking things to extremes. I'm not. It's really not that time consuming, it's cheaper, and I enjoy it. With that said....it's okay if you don't do the hippy stuff too.
Babies get hot: I'm not sure why everyone thinks babies are so cold natured. Mine just about sweats to death in the car seat or when he's wrapped up. In fact I have to be careful NOT to put a coat on him sometimes because he might overheat. Ignore all the old folks and do what makes your baby comfortable.
Formula won't kill your baby: I'm all for breastfeeding. In fact we did it for the first 3-4 months. Then I dried up. In all honesty....breastfeeding drove me crazy. I could never produce enough. I felt tied to the pump. I felt like I could never get out, because is 2 hours I'd have to be back to feed/pump. I didn't know how much he was getting. I couldn't tell if he was full. With that said...I'll do it again with my next baby because I do think it is the best for baby. Formula is okay though. You aren't a failure. Even the breastfeeding moms will tell you that.
Do what works for you: This is the most important advice I have. No matter what anyone says...you have to do what works for you and your baby. Everyone is different. Both you and baby need to be happy....do what you need to do to get there. There is no single solution or single way to raise a child.
Keep a journal: You will be amazed at how much you forget from one month to the next. I've got mom friends with 1 and 2 year olds and when I ask for advice I'm amazed at how much they don't remember. But then I try to think back to where we were 2 months ago...and I draw a blank. Write it down...you'll need it for the next one.
I hope this is helpful. I plan on looking back on it with the next one. Please feel free to add your own baby advice in the comment section.